Firuj & Inez
“I was making lunch one day at my new job, toast with soup. Some weirdo stood behind me and said: ‘I don’t trust people who don’t fully butter their toast’. That’s the first thing he said.”
“Even in the earlier stages, we were more friends. It can fast track in a way, cause you already know each other, you know each other’s hobbies, you’ve talked about your families and shared friends. The whole getting to know each other level has passed. But then it’s like what’s the dynamic going to be this new relationship… as friends we were used to taking the piss out of each other, pushing buttons. We did that in the beginning but realised it wasn’t quite right.”
“It helped us push each other forward, in the beginning it was all competition but that’s not really a good thing. My mom and dad had that in the beginning of their relationship. We were arguing quite a bit and I told my mum. She said: ‘if you both have strong characters even if different people, you both need to find your place…’ but not by completely letting each other be but testing each other’s boundaries. What is accepted and not accepted.”
“I cant wait to have kids and be like a stay at home dad, I’m the complete opposite, I rather do all that shit. I’m happy for Inez to be the go getter. She’s just better at work.
I don’t think her parents need to worry that she’ll be expected to stay at home. I’ll stay at home, hell all the time if I have to-slash-want to.”
“I never really told my parents about relationships. I grew up in a small town in Dorset. Everyone that lives in that town that’s Bengali, I’m like related to; except for one family.
For them, it’s a lot about what other people will think, and I couldn’t care less about that. It took ages to get them to understand. Mom is more understanding, dad’s in that environment at his restaurant, hearing other people talking.”
“She has a big warm heart, welcoming. When she first came here, she kept looking at me and kept smiling. When she left she gave me a massive hug. Body language says a lot. We both were super nervous.
When I met his dad, he came in the room, he was very friendly, very open and welcoming. He actually said to me that Firuj’s mom is like my mom. Then he wanted to touch on the topic of religion. Firuj and his sister were so nervous that they started talking to each other loudly and joking.”
- Inez on Firuj’s parents.