Naazneen & Steven
Ages: 54 & 52
BEEN TOGETHER: 31 YEARS
Children: 3 Girls
Met at WORK
Photos by: Ragib Choudhury / @iragib
“We both knew after a few months.
I went home and told my dad that I think I’ve found the guy I want to get married to. He said: ‘okay, tell me more.’
‘Well, he’s white.’
‘Alright, okay.’ Then it all went quiet. He said: ‘give me a couple of weeks to think about it.’
I was expecting a lot worse. In a couple of weeks, he came back to me and said: ‘bring him home, I want to seem him.’
So I invited him around and he just quizzed him. About prospects, jobs, education… Then was like ‘right, you can leave my home now.’. Steven got up and left.
My dad goes to me: ‘right, he’s a very nice boy but he’s too old for you’.. I said ‘great, we’ll be getting married then cause he’s two and a half years younger than me.’.
3 month later, we married.
“I always joked and said that he had asked all the other girls out first, and I was just the mug that said yes.”
“He said: ‘I’ve now accepted it but we’ll get phone calls from all over the world telling us not to do this. Now, we just ignore them.’.”
- Naazneen’s dad
“I wouldn’t have married Steven if my dad hadn’t supported it, Steven knew that too. It will only happen if mom and dad were 100% behind it. There was no way I was going to leave my parents. Thankfully, it was smooth. And they had a fantastic relationship.”
“I was brought up a certain way, Steven another. He was very open with everything and I was brought up in a more closed family. They didn’t know I had a boyfriend or anything. As my girls have gotten older, it’s something I’ve had to let go of. For me, to talk about these things is so alien. I had to learn to let go of how I was brought up, to be able to talk openly. Steven helped me a lot with that.
It was hard. The way they brought me up was amazing, I never questioned it. If there was a party and dad said no, I couldn’t say why not. I didn’t go. That was okay.
How I bring up the girls is different I’m not saying it’s better or anything, it’s just different. You have to learn to change and accept change.”
- Naazneen on talking about relationships with her three daughters