Rikesh & Kavya
“I used to write for a British South Asian magazine, so followed who were doing cool things on Twitter, including musicians, we followed each other for years and once met at a London Mela.”
“I was performing, running between sets, I was with someone who saw you and we quickly said hi.”
“He was living in Luton, he had like day of meetings in London, he tweeted, ‘I have a few meetings that got cancelled is anyone around?’. I replied going ‘Haha, you have no friends’.
And then the next day he came in again, he was going to a Kendrick Lamar gig. He DM’d me, slid into my DMs.
“That’s a lie, we were talking…”
“He sent me a message, ‘You’re not going to believe this, it’s happened again, do you want to meet up?’.
I had the day off and I was like, ‘Sure’. I remember going, being on the train, I was so nervous, what if the conversation dies, what do we talk about it. I remember thinking about a few questions. Not because it was a date or I was expecting anything but it was because we hadn’t met before. But when we met, conversation flowed… We met at 4pm and we just didn’t stop talking until we left for the gig.”
“We were wandering around and near London bridge station, I turned and suddenly he wasn’t there. He was standing in a chicken shop, and I went over to ask him what he was doing. He said, ‘There’s a homeless guy outside and so I’m buying him a meal’. God, I remember thinking that if I ever have kids, I want them to be that aware of other people like that”
- Kavya on ‘that moment’
“He said to me, that he had booked the day off, booked breakfast and a manicure cause you might want to show off your nails a bit later. And he went, you might want to show off your nails cause I have a question for you. Then he got down on one knee.”
“Actually, that’s not what happened, what I did say was I booked this, I booked this, I booked this, I booked in a manicure cause I figured if you have an engagement ring you’ll probably want nice nails to show it off, and then I proposed.
I know that because I spent fucking ages rehearsing it. When I wrote that I was like, ‘I’m a fucking baller. That’s cool. That’s going to work’.”
“One day, my mum called me down and she gave me an iPad and it was 3 profiles: doctor, lawyer… cliche stuff. I remember telling her and she asked a lot of questions. She’s like you’re going to have to tell your dad. I was hoping she would.
A week later, I went into kitchen I was like dad, mum mentioned you wanted to introduce me to people but I need to tell you that I’ve found someone I’d like you to meet. His expression was like thunder. He was like, ‘I cant deal with it right now. Let’s talk about it another time’.
It took a while. It almost took a year before my dad even agreed to meet him and that year was tough.
It was sheer persistence, we had a few emails where my dad explained his side and I explained my side. It got to the point where my mom told my dad’s sister. So she got involved and spoke to him. Then they met. He was still like, I don’t know if this is right, there’s so many differences. It was a year after they met that we got the blessing to get engaged.”
“We want them to be hybrid babies.”
- Rikesh on children and the two cultures
“I went to India to do wedding shopping, my elder relatives were like, ‘You guys will be fine but it’s your kids that will be confused about where they stand’. I said to them that I didn’t think so. If anything, there’s so much evidence that learning languages is good for your brain. My kids going to be trilingual. What is there to be confused about they are Indian, of Indian heritage. They have the advantage of being able to understand North Indian and South Indian cultures.”